Therapy is a space for healing, self-discovery, and growth, but it is also shaped by the identities and lived experiences of both the therapist and the client. When working with a BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, and People of Color) therapist, there are certain expectations that might differ from those of a therapist who does not share a marginalized identity.
BIPOC therapists often navigate therapy with cultural humility, awareness of systemic oppression, and a deep commitment to affirming the experiences of their clients. However, there are things we simply won’t do—and for good reason. Here’s what you won’t get from your BIPOC therapist.
1. We Won’t Dismiss the Impact of Racism and Oppression
Your BIPOC therapist will not ignore or downplay the reality of systemic racism, generational trauma, or the impact of oppression on mental health. Instead, we will validate your experiences and help you process them in a way that promotes healing and resilience.
We understand that racism is not just an abstract concept but a lived reality that affects mental and emotional well-being.
2. We Won’t Expect You to Educate Them on Cultural Issues
Unlike some non-BIPOC therapists who may unintentionally rely on clients to explain cultural norms, microaggressions, or systemic barriers, your BIPOC therapist already has a foundation of cultural competence. While we may ask about your specific lived experience, we won’t put the burden of education on you.
3. We Won’t Push a “Colorblind” Approach
Your BIPOC therapist understands that race, culture, and identity matter. A Black therapist won’t encourage you to ignore or minimize your racial or ethnic identity to fit into dominant narratives. Instead, they will help you explore how your identity shapes your experiences and validate the role culture plays in your healing journey
4. We Won’t Blame You for Your Trauma
Healing from trauma, especially trauma linked to racial or intergenerational oppression, requires deep compassion. Your therapist will not suggest that you “just get over it” or place blame on you for struggling with the effects of systemic inequities. Instead, we will support you in unpacking trauma and finding strategies for resilience and empowerment.
5. We Won’t Ignore the Importance of Community Healing
Many BIPOC communities value collective healing over individualism. Your therapist won’t force you to process your struggles in isolation or push a strictly individualistic approach. We recognize the power of community, spirituality, and intergenerational support as part of the healing process.
6. We Won’t Promote Harmful Respectability Politics
Your BIPOC therapist won’t encourage you to “code-switch” or conform to oppressive standards just to be accepted. We understand the emotional and psychological toll of constantly trying to fit into white-dominant spaces and will affirm your right to exist as your authentic self.
7. We Won’t Shame You for Setting Boundaries
Many BIPOC clients struggle with boundary-setting due to cultural and familial expectations. Your Black therapist won’t shame you for wanting to prioritize your mental health by setting boundaries with family, friends, or workplaces. Instead, we will help you navigate these challenges with self-compassion, recognizing the unique pressures that come with your identity and lived experiences.
8. We Won’t Ignore the Role of Intersectionality
BIPOC therapists understand that identity is multifaceted. We won’t view your struggles through a single lens but will consider the intersections of race, gender, sexuality, class, ability, and other identities that shape your lived experience.
9. We Won’t Minimize the Need for Rest and Joy
Healing isn’t just about processing trauma; it’s also about reclaiming joy, rest, and pleasure. Your therapist won’t tell you that you need to constantly “push through” or “hustle” at the expense of your well-being. Instead, we will encourage you to embrace rest, pleasure, and self-care as necessary components of healing.
10. We Won’t Ignore the Power of Resistance and Advocacy
Your BIPOC therapist recognizes that healing is both personal and political. We won’t discourage you from engaging in activism or advocacy work that aligns with your values. Instead, we will help you find ways to balance activism with self-preservation, ensuring that your mental health remains a priority.
Final Thoughts
Working with a BIPOC therapist can provide a deeply affirming space where your identity, experiences, and emotions are honored. By understanding what your therapist won’t do, you can better appreciate the intentionality and care we bring to their practice.
Therapy should be a space where you feel seen, supported, and empowered, and a BIPOC therapist will ensure that your journey to healing is rooted in authenticity and affirmation.
